Anorexia and Christmas can be hard for people who suffer from this sometimes chronic eating disorder. Christmas is often about food, family, and gatherings, which can feel overwhelming. Planning ahead can help make the season less stressful.

Why Christmas is Hard for People with Anorexia

Holiday traditions often revolve around food, like big family meals and treats. This can make you feel anxious and you may worry about being judged for your eating habits.

Social events, like parties and gatherings, can also be tough. These situations can make someone with anorexia feel uncomfortable, guilty, or ashamed.

On top of that, holiday comments about weight, food, or appearances, and even compliments can feel overwhelming.

Plan Ahead to Reduce Stress

Planning can help make Christmas easier. Start by thinking about the events you’ll attend and how you’ll handle meals and conversations. You could bring food you’re comfortable with or stick to smaller portions.

Having a support person can also help. Let a trusted friend or family member know how they can support you, like changing the topic if food comes up or checking in with you.

Set boundaries. If a gathering feels too stressful, it’s okay to skip it. Your health comes first.

Focus on Non-Food Traditions

Christmas isn’t about food, It’s about family relationships, the most important things in life.

If you’re with your family, play games, go for a walk, or do a holiday craft together, etc. These types of activities can help you celebrate without worrying about meals.

How Loved Ones Can Help

If someone you know has anorexia, you can support them during Christmas. Avoid comments about their weight, eating, or how much food they have.

Be patient and understanding. Ask how they’re feeling or talk about things they enjoy instead of focusing on food.

You can also help by keeping the atmosphere relaxed, fun and engaging. Don’t focus on meals, and just being there to listen is enough.

Coping Strategies During Meals

Holiday meals can be stressful. Focus on being mindful, pay attention to family, friends and conversations. This can ease some pressure.

Eat at your own pace. Take small bites and do what feels right for you. If someone comments, you can say, “I’m just taking it slow today.”

Have an exit plan ready. If it gets overwhelming, step away for a break—go to the bathroom, get some fresh air, or take a moment to reset.

Dealing with Food-Related Conversations

Holiday talk about food and dieting can be tough for someone with anorexia. Comments about eating or losing weight can be triggering.

If this happens, try to change the subject. Say something like, “Let’s talk about something fun, like New Year’s plans.” If it keeps going, it’s okay to excuse yourself.

Having a supportive person nearby can help too. Change the subject if needed. Most that love you may pick up on the hint and step in to help.

Remember Self-Care

Make time for self-care. Do relaxing activities like reading, listening to music, or taking a walk. Focus on what keeps you calm.

Get enough sleep. The holidays can be busy, but sticking to a regular sleep schedule can help reduce stress and anxiety.

If you’re seeing a therapist, continue your sessions during the holidays. Talking can help you stay grounded. If you’re not in therapy, consider reaching out to a support group or hotline for extra support.

Setting Realistic Expectations

The holidays don’t need to be perfect. It’s okay if things don’t go as planned. Focus on what really matters—spending time with loved ones and taking care of yourself.

Set small, realistic goals, like attending one gathering or trying a new dish. Celebrate your small wins instead of worrying about what you didn’t do.

Looking Ahead

Christmas can be tough for people with anorexia, but it doesn’t have to be overwhelming. Plan ahead, set boundaries, and focus on activities that aren’t about food. It’s okay to prioritize your well-being.

If you’re supporting someone with anorexia, patience and understanding go a long way. Avoid food-related comments and help them feel included in other ways.

The holidays are about more than food—they’re a time to connect and find joy. Decorating, watching movies, or spending quiet time together can make the season special. Focus on these moments and take it one step at a time.